Consider the impact of Unnatural Dispositions

Excluding a natural heir, especially a child, has a profound impact. The message to an excluded child is:“I don’t love you.”

How would you feel if your parent excluded you?

The pain of this situation can last forever (“I wake up in the middle of the night wondering what I did wrong”; “I feel like I was thrown off a 10 story building by my own family.”)

Often an excluded child contests a will or trust to prove that his parent really cared.

Excluding a child puts him in a quandary:  Should I or shouldn’t I contest it?  Either way, the relationship with other family members will never be the same.

Excluding a natural heir can permanently damage that person; it can also cause conflict among the survivors.  Most parents do not want to damage their children or cause family disharmony.